The situation is that I don’t feel loved in this relationship. We just had our nikah, and it’s long distance for now.
He barely talks to me, doesn’t share much about himself, and only wants to hear one or two things from me whenever we talk. Whenever I bring up my concerns, he dismisses my feelings and says things like: “it hasn’t even started yet, why worry about it, I do care about you, your feelings are invalid,” etc.
The truth is, I was worried about this aspect even before marriage, but since it was arranged, I basically had no right to turn him down.
He tells me I should adapt to his introvert nature, and he gets frustrated whenever I bring this up. It makes me feel so sad and depressed about how I’ll be with him in the future.
Now I’m fully aware that he isn’t into emotional intimacy, and I don’t really know how to deal with a typical practical guy who believes only in actions and doesn’t want to get into arguments. Through actions he does show care (like telling me to do or not to do certain things), but it’s not the same as expressing love or sharing himself with me.
I feel fed up and honestly don’t know how to handle this. My mind goes blank. How do women deal with this kind of situation? I’m sure most men in our culture are like this, but I know nothing about how to deal with it or how to survive marriage with such a guy.
Please share what has worked for you or others you know. Any advice is appreciated.