Hi everyone. I’m 32F, my husband is 34M. We’ve been married for 5 years and have an 8-month-old baby.
Over the years we’ve had arguments — mostly because I get frustrated that he’s lazy, and he feels like I nag or complain too much. Despite this, I always thought we loved each other and would make it through.
Recently, I discovered he’s been chatting with women online (pornwebsite) and masturbating instead of being intimate with me. I noticed he has been watching a trans masturbating. During my pregnancy I tolerated it because sex was painful for me (I also have lupus which makes intimacy harder sometimes). But even after giving birth, he doesn’t seem to want me.
When I confronted him, he told me he still loves me and is attracted to me. But I don’t feel it. It hurts that he prefers these online chats over being with me. I asked him to stop, and he promised he would.
The thing is, he’s a good man in many ways. But I feel betrayed and broken. I’m scared of being alone forever, especially with a baby.
Has anyone gone through something similar? How do I know whether to try to save this or let go?
TL;DR I do t know that to do. Do I have to stay in this relationship because we have a baby, I love him or I should ask for the divorce?