I (28F) have for the last year and a half had this real chemistry going on with a close family friend (23M). The problem is our families are so close – my best friends are his cousins i’ve known my entire life, my family spends every holiday with theirs, and even when I go home to visit my parents I almost always hangout with his family.
I don’t want to mess anything up, I’ve been in a few tough relationships before with friends of friends and it’s gotten rocky with my friends once they’re done. But I think he’s hysterical, the more I see him the more attracted I am to him, and the build up we have going is only getting better. He’s very organized, smart, loves to have fun, and has a good head on his shoulders.
His family is also massive gossipers with my family, and I’ve already determined if something were to happen I couldn’t tell anyone in either family until I know its something we both really want.
He’s just so young right now and he’s in grad school for a few years and I’m well established in my career, have a dog, looking to live in my own place (currently live with my best friend).
Not sure how the first move could be made or how this could really work out longterm. I’m career oriented and enjoy my job. I happen to live close by where he’s living with his Aunt and going into his second year of grad school. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I’m also a bit worried about the age thing – I feel like I’ve lived a lot of lives (I’ve lived in 5 different states in my 20s and had a bunch of different jobs).