hello everyone
19F and 20M
I love calling people, but my boyfriend doesn’t enjoy it. I just want to hear his voice all the time, but he isn't fond of talking on the phone. I'm starting to worry that it’s me; I don’t find my voice very pleasant to listen to. I always respect his wishes when he says he doesn’t want to talk, but I make a point to call him whenever he asks, no matter what I’m doing. If I miss a call, I try to call him back within five minutes.
I asked him if we could talk, and he said he doesn’t feel like it, but we haven’t seen or spoken on the phone in over a week. I typically don’t ask to talk because the answer is usually no, but when I do, it's during times when I really need him, or at least his voice. I just want to feel connected to him in some way.
I've mentioned that talking is a love language for me when we're apart, but he tells me he has to get used to it. I'm so confused because he has no problem speaking to me in person and we’ve been together for 9 months now. I feel like my voice might be annoying to him, and I don't know what to do. I just really want to talk to him.
TL;DR,
I love talking on the phone, but my boyfriend doesn’t. I want to hear his voice, but he rarely wants to call. It’s been over a week since we’ve talked on the phone, and I'm starting to feel like it's something about me. I respect his feelings, but I feel a strong need for that connection, especially since talking is a love language for me. He says he has to get used to it, but he talks to me easily in person. I’m confused and just want to know how to communicate better. What should I do?
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