Hi everyone,
I have been married for 2 years and I am an immigrant. My husband and his family are American. My in-laws are divorced and my MIL lives with her boyfriend. She has many health issues. She had a stroke, a heart attack, and currently has a hole in her heart, but according to her the only thing that makes her sick is gluten so she cut that out. At the same time she continues smoking cigarettes, marijuana, and drinking alcohol. She had to stop working because she is not physically well and she also cannot drive anymore since she lost vision in her right eye.
Her boyfriend works but makes less money than me, the immigrant, and she often asks her kids for money. My husband is the oldest and she also asks his siblings who are 24 and 22. On weekends her boyfriend sleeps until 2 pm and does not make any effort to bring in extra income.
Both she and her boyfriend make anti-immigrant jokes right in front of me. She has never treated me badly directly, in fact she is sometimes overly involved with me, but she constantly cancels plans with her son, calls him drunk, complains about everyone, or badmouths his dad.
Meanwhile my own parents back in my home country do everything they can to support me and my husband. They have even gifted us trips, an apartment, a sofa.
I feel worse with this situation every day and I know I need to find a way to either talk to my husband about how I feel or, if necessary, talk to her directly.