Long post but he’s telling me it’s me, not him. This was our July.
Fireworks – was loud and obnoxious and talking crap about people and police officers at a volume that could be heard by everyone. I told him that he needed to stop and that everyone could hear him. He started yelling and telling me that he’s sick of my terrible attitude and that I suck and that I’m a fun suck. He kicked out cat across the room while yelling at me.
Family vaca – ran out of vape and he said he was ready to go home. I said of course you are, which started a fight. He was yelling at me coming out of the water in front of the whole beach. I told him multiple times to stop yelling at me in front of everyone. He got super drunk and wanted to have sex. I said no because of the kids in the room. He kept going and I gave in but he was being super extra and then bit me. I wasn’t into it because of the kids and he told me I was garbage and that he was leaving the next day. On our 2nd to last day, he was pushing for us to leave that night and I said no. He called me selfish and that I only cared about myself.
First day after vacation – adamant that our 3 year old needed an extra day to rest and told me I was selfish as fuck. 3 year old went on to have a great day at school.
Arguing with 10 year and I heard him scream at the top of his lungs at her. She ran upstairs crying immediately. I had to go tell him it was wrong and he tried to justify it.
Was upset with 3 year old for not listening and used his body language and tone to try to intimidate him. I said it was wrong and he tried to justify it
I told him he needed to go inside to pick 10 year old up on Mondays instead of having her walk around outside at 9pm trying to find his car in downtown. He mocked me and said it wasn’t a big deal. Started arguing.
He told me I needed to stop reminding him of the kids ages because it was pissing him off.
He’s told me twice this month thats he’s so mad at 3 year old that his heart is pounding like he’s going to have a heart attack.
He’s mad that I won’t let him “parent” and when I ask him what that means, he says “do something” instead of letting the kids get away with stuff. When I ask him what he wants to do, he doesn’t have a response so my assumption is that he wants to physically reprimand them.
He wanted to visit friends camping at the lake. I got up and made lunches and packed everything. I asked for help but he was enjoying his coffee. Then went to shower and by the time he was down, it was time to go. I’d packed everything. Got to the lake and he had a blast but wasn’t helping to watch the kids at all because he was chillin with the boys. Went home and ate dinner, he fell asleep in the couch and I cleaned everything up. He wanted sec that night and I told him that was tired and had been annoyed with him all day. The next day, he said I was punishing him.
I tell him how I feel and it’s always taken as criticism instead of my feelings and what I need from him.