Husband (32m) and I (28F) have been together for almost 10 years. I am the second person he has sexually been with and I would like him to be more rough in our sex lives. I don’t know if it makes sense but I want him to act like he doesn’t love me in bed and would like him to do whatever he wants with me. He is very shy and gets nervous with new things. I’ve told him to try and look into these things on his own and by offering to have us watch porn together, read sexy books out loud, I’ve asked him to look into some of these things that may be interesting to him and to just let me know whatever he wants to try because I am very willing. How do I go about wording what I want and to have it done.
In the past I’ve asked him to call me names but he doesn’t want to disrespect me and I love him so much but I want him to be disrespectful in bed. Please send advice and words of encouragement, I would like to try and slowly push him out of his comfort zone.