I am 25 and a virgin. My wife is 25 as well and a virgin. We have zero experience on sex. We got married 15 days ago. We are together now for more than 2 years now.
We tried having sex countless times now, as far as i am able to understand the problem is she’s too scared about the pain. She’s been talking to some of her friends before marriage and they told her it’s really really painful to have sex. That thought has been stuck in her mind(i have tried convincing her that there will be pain for first time we do it after that its only pleasure and fun), anytime we are in the mood and we start with foreplay and get to the deed she grabs hold of me preventing me to do anything. Her face is full of fear as soon as i just touch her vagina.
Once she somehow gathered courage to let me try it after lots and lots of convincing. I barely put my tip inside and she said it was too painful for her and I lost my mood and erection after that. Now after multiple similar attempts i have given up on her. I don’t know if the problem is with me or her.
Please help me I really really love her a lot and this thing is eating me.
Ps: have tried fingering her with my index finger and lots of lube. Still painful. It took 45mins to get 3-4 inch of my finger in her. Have tried mini vibrator too the one that comes with a pull string and operates with app. She didn’t let me put it inside her as she felt too ticklish.
I start with foreplay like kissing fondling and massaging and sucking her breasts. Rubbing her clit and make sure she has atleast one orgasm before i lick her pussy. I give her atleast 2 orgasms before i try fingering but as i am doing it i feel her pussy get dry very quickly and i use lube to compensate for it but each time we end up cuddling which is not bad for me. I know these things take time. Just wanted to check what i am doing wrong to make it hurt her so bad.