My sister in law 43 years old, has been playing the cold silent game with my husband 37 years old, ever since he told her he will not give money for things that are wasteful to her or his younger sister (wasted his gold money gift to her in a 2 hour venue for bride shower $3.5k.) My husband and I don’t have a car and are in debt and are still expected by his older sister to give money and gold, and taxi everyone around even though we live 3 hours away. As his wife, I worry for his back as they have said he may need surgery and has not bee working for 25 days; his older sister has t called him to check up on him which hurts a lot. There is a wedding coming up and I do not feel it in my heart to host her two nights. My his has said she looks at everything in the house, how clean it is, deeply looking. Is it wrong to not want her to stop by given all this. She has turned a few people around me too, talks too much assumptions and some family has turned silent on me thinking my husband does what I say, when it’s never been this way. Please advise