My (32) husband (40) for the last few months has been making comments about how lucky some of our family and friends are who have older kids. Our kids are 6 and 1. His sisters son just turned 18 and is off to the military. Our best friends have one child who is 8. We are in the thick of paying for daycare and all the baby stuff. He’s said things like “it’s so nice they have all this extra money now” and “they get to travel and do whatever while we’re stuck here paying daycare”. It really irritates me. These are choices we made and it is what it is. He literally told me this morning that he’s jealous of them and the fact that they get to do whatever they want. I don’t even know what to say or how to even talk about this. I tried to explain to him that his sister had her child at 22 so yes now he’s grown and gone and now she has freedom but she didn’t have that back then and you had your entire 20’s and half your 30’s free. And yes our friends are no longer paying 2k a month for daycare because they only had one child, I’m sure that’s lovely. He just seems super butt hurt and miserable and I don’t know what to do to help him.