What the title says. Basically he had fallen asleep downstairs and left his phone in our kitchen upstairs. I heard his alarm going off so I went to turn it off. Then it went off again like 15 min later so I figured this time I would open his phone, turn off any remaining alarms, and then go wake him up. Well imagine my surprise when I open my phone and see that he has OnlyFans up on his phone. Like it was the last webpage up before he locked his phone and set it down. I was horrified and didn’t really want to do any digging. I just saw that he follows 54 people and there were notifications about some subscriptions expiring. I didn’t look in messages (now I wish I had). Anyway, I kept OF up, went downstairs tossed his phone at him and curtly told him his alarm was going off. I figured when he opened his phone he’d see why I was not happy. I texted him later that we needed to talk when our kid was napping.
He comes to find me during nap time and starts apologizing. I asked to see the messages on there and he told me he deleted it right after since he figured “that’s what I would want him to do”. I see that point but I’m also upset because I’m pretty sure I’ll never get to see what he said to people if anything.
My questions are:
-Can you get an OF account back after it’s been deleted?
-Is it possible he was just using it to watch porn and not actually messaging women?
-It said he “followed” 54 people, are those all subscriptions or just free follows (asking because he claimed he only subscribed to a few… as if that was supposed to make me feel better)?
Anyway, I’m feeling very sad and vulnerable right now. I have nobody to talk to about this because honestly I’m embarrassed and don’t want to tell any of my close friends. I’m not planning on getting a divorce over this so I’d rather not ruin their view of him, if that makes sense.