Hi everyone,
I’m 25 years old and I’ve never been in a relationship. I’ve been on a few dates, but I never kissed the girl, usually because I realized I wasn’t physically attracted in the end. I’ve kissed girls at parties, but that was always when both of us were drunk, and it never led to anything serious.
I do use dating apps. I’ve had matches, we’d talk, and then I’d either get ghosted, or sometimes the girl would just say “I don’t think this will work” without much explanation. I always respected that, if she doesn’t feel comfortable, I let her move on, no hard feelings. But it still leaves me stuck at square one.
I’m not a model, but I take care of myself: I go to the gym, I dress well, I make an effort. I also go out with friends and coworkers, so it’s not like I’m isolated. But whenever I see a girl I’m interested in, I freeze. I’m terrified of disturbing her.
My biggest fear is awkward silence. Even if I found the courage to approach someone, I picture myself standing there with nothing to say, her feeling uncomfortable, me feeling stupid, and my brain screaming “everything you say will sound dumb.” Honestly, my own thoughts feel like my worst enemy in all of this.
What I truly want is something serious, someone to build with, to share life and projects with. Not just a fling.
So my question is: has anyone been in a similar spot? How do you push through the overthinking and the fear of not being “enough” when it comes to dating?