What does that even mean? I met a guy, we vibed and all but he told me that I am not dumb enough for him to date me? That he likes woman who are educated but slightly „dumb“ so that he can always be the one who throws in random knowledge facts. I always told him random facts about random things I read about, but apparently that’s unwished for lmao. Mind you he has a PHD in Neuroscience and i don’t. So he is definitely cleverer than me, I don’t really get it and have never been told something like this before
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Sounds silly, just forget about him and move on.
You don’t want to date this guy, trust me
A PhD doesn’t make you clever tho, as it is really specific. I know lots of idiots with degrees that know nothing besides their field and people way more knowledgeable that are ‘just’ workers.
Forget him
99.9% chance this dude is going to be some controlling, manipulative asshole. Don’t walk away, run. Slam the door behind you, lock it, throw away the key.
It’s always concerning when a man wants a woman who is dumb for any reason. Women who are witty, critical thinking or quick on their feet intellectually are harder to manipulate, control and have a much easier time with pattern recognition. Especially if it’s a bad pattern a man doesn’t want you to see.
He either wants a woman to control, manipulate or at least have someone who can stroke his ego because he’s so “smart”. I say this as a woman who has a PhD.
There are also different types of smart! There is book smart, street smart! Someone may also have a great knack for learning languages. The point is many people have areas they excel in so rather than find someone “dumb” which is a red flag within itself, why not focus on finding someone who you can learn from and admire? For both people in a relationship?
Count your blessings. It sounds like you dodged a bullet.
I would just skip and not think too deeply about this..
There is a specific subset of men who prefer dating women that are “dumb” to a certain degree.
These men believe that an intellectual woman may not allow them to get away with controlling behaviour more easily. That those women will judge more harshly or see red flags more easily.
So they need someone “dumb”. It’s all about control, usually.