I (22F) have always struggled with making friends. When I was younger, it came easily, but once I became a teenager, I just wanted to fit in and ended up being the biggest people pleaser. On top of that, moving schools frequently made me lose touch with my childhood friends.
Now, it feels like every friendship I make is temporary and never really lasts. I know that friendships take effort, and I genuinely feel like I’m someone who loves deeply and gives my all to my friends. But once someone hurts me, I can’t see the friendship the same way, and eventually, we lose connection. (I feel like it’s fair not to expect people to do things I would never do to them, you know?)
At the same time, I feel like cutting people off when they hurt me is stopping me from building long-lasting friendships. Most of the time, I don’t even lose friendships because of conflict it’s more like I’ve outgrown them. Ihonestly don’t know what to do.