First of all, I know we're very young and the relationship is new, so I feel like i should provide some context.
Ever since I had my first little boyfriend at age 12 I knew most relationships are not forever, especially the young ones. I've had a couple partners, but always knowing it would end (I know this is not the healthiest way to be, but that's for me to treat with a therapist). I never cried after being broken up with, never really cared if a relationship was lasting and always prioritized my friends over partners. I admit that I have been avoidant and kind of cold when it comes to romance, but I just never saw a reason to give that much space and energy to something that I honestly didn't cared about keeping in my life.
About 3 years ago I met Frank (fake name), and we became great friends. I was attracted to him, but I always prefer to have a good friend than a nice partner. We eventually became eachother's best friend. We can talk about literally anything, have extremely compatible life and relationship goals (which, since we were not flirting or dating, i know is true and not just us trying to fit togerher), similar humor, hobbies, interests, ways of communicating, the whole thing. Two years ago Frank went to live abroad for work, and far from growing apart our friendship just became stronger. We kept building the strongest friendship I have ever had (unlike with romance, i do give my all for my friends), and I can honestly say he knows me more than anyone else.
A couple months ago he announced his return to our country, and I asked him if he wanted to come live with me, which he agreed to. Three months ago he came back, and after a month of living togerher we decided to give ourselves a chance at being together.
He is exactly the same as me regarding romance. We both have a no-bullshit approach to it, and tend to keep other people at arm's lenght and over analize everything, identifying conflicts before they arise.
Thing is, we both feel in a way we've never felt before. For the first time we both understand those sappy love songs and everything we considered annoying about love before. We use pet names, miss eachother when we're apart, the whole thing. I understand now that this is how people feel when they're being cheesy and lovey-dovey. We actually listen to AND understand eachother. Communication is easy. We respect and support eachother. It is everything I was told love is supposed to be.
I want to be with him for a long time, I consider him when I think about my future, but I can't shake the feeling that nothing can be so perfect.
I guess I could take several different types of comments, so the general questions would be, has anyone here been in this situation? care to tell me how it turned out? what could I be paying special attention to in order to stay together? how long would you consider the "honeymoon stage" to be before we "see our true colors"? can we really find the love of our lives so young?
Sorry if this is long and not very specific, I would just like to hear of other people, hopefully older ones with more experience. Thank you!
TL;DR: Im in the best relationship ever after years of being avoidant, but my lack of experience has me confused and preoccupied.