We've always had a certain vibe going on ever since we met, but it was subtle enough for me to be confused/uncertain about. We did not cross any lines, but we did hang outside of work here and there. Soon after I left the job, he told me directly that he likes me, and we ended up hooking up the same night.
After the sex, he confirmed he's liked me from the moment we met and how he couldn't believe this finally happened (& how much he had fantasized about this moment). After the sex we kissed, cuddled, talked, and I slept over. I did not see any signs of negative post nut clarity. The next day he texted me saying he wants to do it again, but since, has not set aside any time for me. It has been long enough of a time where I know he is simply not giving me any time vs. actually being busy.
Just wanted to vent because this experience felt especially shitty. As much as it is common for men to switch up after sex, this was someone I considered a good friend and we had a meaningful human to human relationship. I texted him saying he should tell me straight up if he changed his mind about me. He insists that's not true, but is not showing that in ANY action. Haven't seen him since and now he will be out of town for a while. I don't think he will be spending any more time with me at this point because he no longer mentions the plans we made pre-hook up. Why are so many men like this… And why wouldn't he just tell me straight up?
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i’m a little confused, so the next day he texts you saying he wants to do it again. then you say they since, he hasn’t set up a time. how long has that been? has it been like, no contact since then? have you both been chatting? have YOU tried to set up a time?
then you text him asking if he changed his mind about you, what was the context of that? was this after no contact or just after chatting or what? not accusing you of anything just genuinely curious of the timeline and context of these chats