I am a 31m who looks 18-23. Because of this most women my age won’t date me which has caused me to go several years without partners. I’m not bad looking if anything I tend to be seen as attractive. But I work in a restaurant where a lot of younger girls 18-23 really wanna date me and I feel guilty for even considering it. But at the same time I’m only human and it is mutual and consenting. Is this wrong.


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  2. It ain’t wrong, do what you desire. But remember that there are always people who will look you wrong

  4. Men die before women so if she’s very young she will be a widow for a while. Anyway if she’s over 25 I think it’s fine especially as people get older they become boring and the younger person still wants to go out and do things.

  6. Ignore the self justified moral Red Liners. As long as you are not trying to be creep or harassing someone and appropriately disclose your age, you are not doing anything wrong.

    Funny thing. As social mobility goes up, so as the wealthier people start to laugh at all the people who preach the age gap difference being wrong. For example no one is calling George Clooney or Leobardo Di Caprio, or Kardashian matriarch perverts. Even if they did, they would just laugh at their face.

    As long as you are dating someone of legal age and do not lie about your age, you are fine. It’s their choice to date you or not since they are old enough and independent to do so.

  7. It’s not wrong my previous partner was ten years younger than me I think it depends on their maturity level, but like other ppl have said get ready for some looks

  8. If your age doesn’t have ‘teen’ in it, do not date someone who does. I think that’s a generally good role to follow.

    But also im 27 and I know i have barely anything in common with people more than 3 years younger than me so I dont know what you could possibly talk about with a 18 year old as a 31 year old….

  10. Well my ex is 45 and he wants a 21 year old for his next relationship because that’s his “preference” I can’t look at him the same way ever again

  11. In theory it’s mutual and consenting but in practice it’s icky. You’re in different stages in your lives and there will inherently be a gross power dynamic.

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