I 25F, matched with a guy 29M on dating app and we texted a lot and met him outside after like 8-9 days of texting. It was fun, and he was really a nice guy, kind to others. I could feel a connection with him to the extent I cancelled all my other dates (third date with another guy), and he kept asking me to meet during weekdays since we work nearby, and we somehow met 3-4 times a week. We hang out 1 whole day on weekend too, it’s really fun, and we already kissed and hold hands by like date 4. And he stopped initiating for weekday meetup because he is very busy, I compromised on that and I initiated 3 weekday meetup and we did met. We met this saturday as well.
We haven’t gone to sex level yet, but i asked about things where we are at and he was like we are dating, and not a relationship yet, and he wants to take things slow, which is completely ok.
I also asked what he likes about me, and the answer was really a big deal breaker for me. He said “compared to u, there’re a lot of prettier girls out there, but they are expensive and demanding. You are down to earth, not expensive, low maintenance and not demanding.” That was the only answer he gave and I didn’t know what to feel, but when I came back, I realized I’m not the chosen one.
And he also told me friends are his non-negotiable. He meets his friends 3-4 times a week, and he told me these times are reserved for friends only, and he needs rest time as well, so moving forward, he can’t meet me as much as before, if his friends want to meet him, then, he will have to cancel the plan with me. He will make time for me 1 day a week, but I shouldn’t expect more.
He told me he wants to date exclusively with me and when the time is right, he wants to ask me out officially in a fancy way. I feel like this is the click bait.
I’m thinking of cutting him off entirely, because he doesn’t like me for who I’m. He just couldn’t afford a pretty girl. And I don’t think I’m cheap either. I wear all branded stuffs from bags to clothes to jewelry, a lot better than him, a lot more expensive than most of the girls too. I just genuinely liked him and compromised to him, whenever he wanted to meet or he wanted to cancel, i allowed him do those without complaining. That’s the only cheap stuff I did.
I felt the whole thing is too transactional, and he didn’t compliment on my looks or my personality or my style at all