I’m 31F and I’ve been having issues with sensation and (sort of) libido. So I posted a few places and keep getting no answers so I’m trying here again. I’m really struggling so in hope it’s ok.
I had a mirena IUD for 5 years, over that time my clit sensation decreased to the point it was going me 45 mins to an hour to O. Which lead to me wanting it less often. My bf and I haven’t been great sexually for some time because of this, the rest of our relationship is fine though. I suddenly lost pretty much all sensation and it’s been driving me crazy. I got my IUD out 3 months ago and my tubes removed as alternate birth control. No sensation has returned though. I still desire sex, it’s just like my body won’t cooperate with me and it is very frustrating wanting it and not being able to fully O. So I wait and wait and wait or it won’t work. Well, I waited 2 weeks this last time without doing anything at all, and I was desperate for it so when we finally had sex and I O’d, it was like nothing! It was weak and I just want to cry. Why is this happening??? I already seen my gyno and she says I should do pelvic floor PT. And if that doesn’t work she said I could maybe get some estrogen cream. But PT takes months and I’m already losing my mind because of all this.. idk what to do I can’t wait for months. I had my pcp order me a hormone test about a month ago and my gyno didn’t want to even look at it. I think I had low T but it’s been a month now so idk if it changed.
What can I do ? I really don’t want to go months and months with a bad sex life, or still having sex and pretending like it’s good when I desperately need my part too. I tried to even make a homemade clit pump when I was desperate for it to work and ended up kinda just hurting myself with it. I wish drs took this kind of thing more seriously because I’m getting really sad and feeling hopeless and like I might as well just give up on my relationship so he doesn’t have to put up with this. It feels equivalent to what it would feel like if a man tried to fuck with a soft dick. Just not good. I’d reaaally appreciate some advice