This happens to me so damn much and I have no idea how to deal with this or spot/predict it.
It happens on so many levels, from them just shamelessly staring and sneaking glances to actively trying to court me IN FRONT of their girlfriends.
It makes me feel like a total fetish and sex object and I now have no idea how to trust a man in the earlier stages.
I know people will say that I only notice those who have girlfriends, trust me I notice others as well. I’m just so appalled at how often it occurs and I end up being embarrassed when I show interest back and THEN find out about a girlfriend.
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Guys are.. I don’t know there’s something I don’t know how y’all find a reasonable trade-off with that sort of thing.
I feel for you. This is something nobody should need to experience.
There’s this known phenomenon of men appearing more desirable when they’re with a partner, and they know this. Because of this, some men will date and even marry women as placeholders until they attract who they really want. I’ve heard lots of men say they attract more women when they’re in a relationship. A friend of mine stopped wearing his wedding ring, and sure as sh!t, less women flirted w him. 🥴
While some women feed into this phenomenon and are flattered by attracting a taken man, these men are losers that will make the life of any woman they land with miserable. You’re doing the right thing in steering clear.
There’s no real way to spot or predict it. You’re going the right thing by ending it on the spot.
Women do that too, I’ve concluded it’s just a downside of being attractive.
The worst part is, people like that are so brazen because there’s someone out there that actually reacts positively to that kind of behavior.