My bf of almost a year and I had a in depth talk about our relationship and one of the things that came up is sex. I feel unfulfilled and not pursued when it comes to sex. He has some intimacy issues and can be sort of detached during sex which can lead to it not feeling connected.
After we talked, I asked him if there’s any issues he has and he said “the sounds you make during sex throw me off and take me out of it”.
Obviously that’s going to hurt my feelings because that’s literally just me feeling pleasure. Never had any partner have issue with how I sound and have always been complimented so I was honestly confused. He said my tone changes and he brought it up because he thought I might have been putting on a performance.
After I told him how that makes me feel worse after telling him I’m struggling with feeling like he desires me, he understood why saying that was super hurtful and deeply regrets it.
But now I don’t know how to move past it. We’re working on our sex life now but I’m like your partner enjoying you being in pleasure should be bare minimum and I don’t even have that. Are we doomed sexuality? This was honestly upsetting and I dont know if I’m being overly sensitive