I [34F] am dating a 39M for the past 2 almost three months. He is kind, gentle, generous, emotionally intelligent, successful, all the things you’d want a partner to be.
I am having a really hard time meeting him where he’s at on the physical front. We’ve made out a couple of times, heavy ‘petting’ like teenagers, and I feel nothing. We’ve had a chat or two about a slower pace which he’s fine with but, I can tell this ‘slower pace’ thing won’t pacify the situation much longer.
My need of a slower pace is true, I don’t really sleep with men I’m dating and like to have more areas of the relationship built up , however, by now when I do date someone I do typically know or have a curiosity about sleeping with them.
I know this is just ONE element of many that goes into dating/relationship but what would you do in this scenario? Could this potentially ruin things moving forward?