Hi, I am a 30m. I have been single since I was about 28, since then I've gone on dates with a lot of people (around 30 people). I have noticed a pattern:
I go on a 1st date or 2nd date and the people are very enthusiastic (they ask me to go out again). After the 3rd they say they don't feel romance or a connection.
I'm more formal / serious by nature, very friendly but not emotive.
I have ruled out my appearance (I am short at 5'5, but this hasn't seemed to impact my ability to get dates) and maturity being the root cause. The people seem to enjoy the conversation too and seem enthusiastic about going on a 2nd / 3rd date.
Do I just need to be more up front with romantic intentions? Or is it that my recreational activities are boring (I have 2 volunteer activities I do and I go to an exercise class, that's all I have time for)? I also don't drink alcohol which some made comments about.