I matched with a guy on tinder and we chatted a bit. He was super friendly and funny and I genuinely enjoyed chatting with him. He lives two hours away, so our communication petered out. I’ve been experiencing overwhelm with work and housing and am busy and just stopped hearing from him. A month later he reached out asking me for a haircut. I say “wrong number” and he apologizes and says me and his hairdresser have the same number. He proceeds to set up a date with me.
He drives over to see me and when I first saw him, I wasn’t that atttacted to him. I didn’t like his style or his vibe. He proceeded to have breakfast and go to a local pool.
At the pool he took a photo of our legs sitting next to each other and said “one day we’ll be looking back at this photo and thinking about our first date” is this a red flag? I’d literally met him for three hours at this point.
He was a funny guy who made me laugh, but besides for that I felt smothered by him during the date. When we parted I felt drained and overwhelmed by his presence.
I am an avoidant so I can’t tell if I’m just being avoidant when a man is actually interested or if I’m just not that into him.
I ended up texting him “hey it was great meeting you, but I am not feeling a long term romantic connection”. Then I blocked his number. This was nearly three months ago. He proceeds to follow me on tumblr on my music blog, like every post. He has created a tumblr account, and is trying to communicate with me through his posts by posting cryptic messages and even photos saying he driving 2-3 hours to spend the weekend in the town I live.
I’ve considered stopping posting or deleting the blog.