What is your way to show you care, if you aren’t big on affection?
August 17, 2025
What is your way to show you care, if you aren’t big on affection?
10 comments
I think maybe you should dive into the love language thing. So I like to make sure that I like clean up for my husband before he gets home and I also like to send them a flirty picture from the gym every day. You just gotta figure out what you feel comfortable with and what your partner likes.
Nurturing and cooking.
Im told I give incredibly thoughtful gifts, some of which have made people cry. I pay attention to the small details about people and do stuff or give things that I think they will love. I also try to always be available in some way, like when friends and family have panic attacks or are going thru hard times I make sure Im there in some way, even if its a text checking in on them or spending a couple hours on the phone (I absolutely hate talking on the phone) until they calm down or are done venting.
I do hands-on stuff to make their life easier. Build / fix / maintain stuff for them, get it clean, supply tools or food they were wanting. I try to ensure they always have food and never go hungry. I make it a point to pay attention to what they are saying, and that I understand what they’re coming from.
I’m aware it’s a “well duh, bare basics” stuff but I came from a pretty bad childhood. I won’t get into stories, just there was a lot of neglect, filth, and psychological abuse. I would rather die than let someone I care about, go without any of it.
I show up when they ask or need me. And I happily do tasks/favours to support people.
I don’t love touch as an affection tool (it just doesn’t seem to come naturally to me), so I demonstrate it with action instead.
But – if my partner seems to really appreciate affection showed a certain way, I make a concious effort to do that for them.
I like finishing people’s thought process. Not talking-wise, but more of when we’re working alongside each other, I will look to see what they’ll need next, or what kind of support they’d want next. It’s not just a relationship thing, it’s just something I do for people whom I really respect (which in my eyes, is pretty much love 🤣). I can’t honestly say that I really respect most people. The few who earn that upmost respect from me are huge in my life. Everyone gets the bare minimum respect of just being treated human, but the ones who earn more are incredible.
Giving my time. Keeping them company. Bringing them food.
I remember the little details… favorite snacks, songs, or how they take their coffee ☕.
Cooking.
I show I care through acts of service. Doing things for them, being present and helping as much as i can.
10 comments
I think maybe you should dive into the love language thing. So I like to make sure that I like clean up for my husband before he gets home and I also like to send them a flirty picture from the gym every day. You just gotta figure out what you feel comfortable with and what your partner likes.
Nurturing and cooking.
Im told I give incredibly thoughtful gifts, some of which have made people cry. I pay attention to the small details about people and do stuff or give things that I think they will love. I also try to always be available in some way, like when friends and family have panic attacks or are going thru hard times I make sure Im there in some way, even if its a text checking in on them or spending a couple hours on the phone (I absolutely hate talking on the phone) until they calm down or are done venting.
I do hands-on stuff to make their life easier. Build / fix / maintain stuff for them, get it clean, supply tools or food they were wanting. I try to ensure they always have food and never go hungry. I make it a point to pay attention to what they are saying, and that I understand what they’re coming from.
I’m aware it’s a “well duh, bare basics” stuff but I came from a pretty bad childhood. I won’t get into stories, just there was a lot of neglect, filth, and psychological abuse. I would rather die than let someone I care about, go without any of it.
I show up when they ask or need me. And I happily do tasks/favours to support people.
I don’t love touch as an affection tool (it just doesn’t seem to come naturally to me), so I demonstrate it with action instead.
But – if my partner seems to really appreciate affection showed a certain way, I make a concious effort to do that for them.
I like finishing people’s thought process. Not talking-wise, but more of when we’re working alongside each other, I will look to see what they’ll need next, or what kind of support they’d want next. It’s not just a relationship thing, it’s just something I do for people whom I really respect (which in my eyes, is pretty much love 🤣). I can’t honestly say that I really respect most people. The few who earn that upmost respect from me are huge in my life. Everyone gets the bare minimum respect of just being treated human, but the ones who earn more are incredible.
Giving my time. Keeping them company. Bringing them food.
I remember the little details… favorite snacks, songs, or how they take their coffee ☕.
Cooking.
I show I care through acts of service. Doing things for them, being present and helping as much as i can.