This could honestly just be me, but it feels like for some reason it’s impossible to date now. I’m not sure exactly why but it feels like social media changed the dynamics of trying to date as one reason and that’s because people just have too many options now. They can go and choose the next best thing if a supposed red flag comes up. I have seen LTRs to be pretty rare at least in this day and age, most of the women I’ve tried to ask out said they were focusing on themselves. That’s fair, but it shows a change in dating nowadays.
Also there is too much lying and playing games, as well as excuses. While the younger generations do this more, it seems older generations have been guilty of it as well. It’s an awful paradigm that has taken shape in our society where you determine someone compatibility through “window shopping” for options.
Sure, I’m sure there are successful relationships nowadays but I feel you need to be super lucky to get anything like that.
Anyone here agree? Again, it could just be my perspective on things.
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Ya it’s shit. Probably because we’re all over stimulated with all the technology and convenience we have nowadays.
These things trickle in to all aspects of life. Adapt or perish.
After my divorce, I didn’t bother trying to start because I knew internet dating is pretty ridiculous.
I started to focus heavily on myself. Dieting, exercising, things to improve myself not only physically but emotionally too. It made me have more energy when I’m put in public and I noticed people are more approachable to me also. There’s even one woman that I plan to ask on a date.
I feel like internet dating is ineffective. True love is spontaneous and it’ll happen anywhere, but the best investment in your time is in yourself, not swiping right. Its hard to connect with someone that only reached out over internet.
A couple of comments here:
Comment #1: it all depends on your definition of “dating”. Casual dating is healthy and pretty common (see also Comment #2 below).
Comment #2: divide the population into 2 broad categories:
Category #1: people with options. These people have no problem with dating. Period.
Category #2: people with little or no options. These people have issues dating. The women at the top end of this category, bordering the *people with options* category, have a lot of options for casual sex, whether they opted to go for it or no.
Note: there are geolocation differences, my comments apply to the US, and even within the US there’s a difference between major cities (I live in NYC and all my life I have lived in major cities) vs rural America; between West Coast+North East coast and the bible belt.
Having said that, there’s a catch-all solution. Increase your *value* by whichever means you can think of, the goal would be to level up to the category of *People with options*.
YMMV
I feel you. I’m a woman and what I encountered a lot was a lack of commitment, guys just looking for one thing only or literally shopping for a housewife. It sucks all around
that’s because boys and girls are different now, it’s so hard to fell in love for them