i (24f) have been in a relationship with my boyfriend (25m) for a little over four months now (we’ve known each other for eight) and this past month, in the back of my mind, i have been consistently worrying about the possibility of him cheating on me.
now i know it’s irrational, and i say this because he is one of the most genuine people ive ever met, and he’s lovely to me in every way you can think of.
he’s so understanding, he’s gentle, he’s kind, anything i need he doesn’t hesitate to do, he has a good relationship with my family (my mom adores him), and honestly, he’s super into me. he’s always reminding me in little ways like asking me to come run errands with him just so we can be together and constantly complimenting me and just being so attentive all the time like there’s no doubt in my mind that he has deep feelings for me, same as i do for him.
also to add on, he was cheated on in his last relationship and it crushed him and he finds cheating to be one of the most vile things anyone can do to a person so there’s that.
so yeah. i really don’t know where this fear is coming from.
maybe it’s because this is my first relationship and every romance i’ve had prior to this, the men have been… interesting characters. so this is my first stable romance ever in life, and maybe it feels too safe? or maybe it’s just about my own insecurities. i don’t know, but it makes me sad.
i truly don’t believe he would ever do that to me. but i still can’t shake the “what if one day” you know?
is this normal in any capacity? is this something that will go away with time? or will i always be a little paranoid?