Why does orgasm from masturbation feel so much different than orgasm from sex?
August 16, 2025
I feel like I'm exorcising a demon when I orgasm from sex, but masturbation? Line face.
16 comments
Get better at pleasing yourself…..lol
I mean it’s the same reason why a hand job feels different than jerking off.
OP doesn’t know about “the stranger”
You’re in full control of one and you’re at the mercy of the other.
Biology
unless you’re equally horny and intense going at it with your hand, you’re definitely going to be more excited by a human, generally leading to monster orgasms
I disagree, I’ve often told partners that to me, it seems like male (my) orgasms are 99% the same. But my perception, is that women have a wide variety of orgasms.
I assumed it was a gender difference.
Now, if I don’t masturbate (or have sex) for 2-3 days, than that next orgasm is a bit more powerful. But it’s not like it gets any stronger at 5 days or 10 days or even after a year and a half. Candidly, it was this realization that made me appreciate other parts of sex more.
It’s a skill issue
Idk it feels basically the same to me.
Tactile senses.
Wait till you discover there’s more than two.
Same. And I’d say it’s a good thing
More build up, or at least excitement when doing the real thing. When you crank it, you are doing it just to get to your own.
The full body work and emotion physical contact and since i am heterosexual being inside a woman frnt or back is just not even in the same league as a hand job even let alone self service..
oh and for me “i want your baby” shhhhhet..
You have to stop doing it in Walmart
Sex feels great of course, but it’s largely about making sure that my wife is happy, holding back, and doing what works for her. I love her and love making her happy, and it’s definitely a workout with a happy ending.
Mastrubation, on the other hand, is all about me. I go at my own pace, gradually stimulate myself, buildup and then eventually explode exactly when im ready. So the payoff is usually bigger.
16 comments
Get better at pleasing yourself…..lol
I mean it’s the same reason why a hand job feels different than jerking off.
OP doesn’t know about “the stranger”
You’re in full control of one and you’re at the mercy of the other.
Biology
unless you’re equally horny and intense going at it with your hand, you’re definitely going to be more excited by a human, generally leading to monster orgasms
I disagree, I’ve often told partners that to me, it seems like male (my) orgasms are 99% the same. But my perception, is that women have a wide variety of orgasms.
I assumed it was a gender difference.
Now, if I don’t masturbate (or have sex) for 2-3 days, than that next orgasm is a bit more powerful. But it’s not like it gets any stronger at 5 days or 10 days or even after a year and a half. Candidly, it was this realization that made me appreciate other parts of sex more.
It’s a skill issue
Idk it feels basically the same to me.
Tactile senses.
Wait till you discover there’s more than two.
Same. And I’d say it’s a good thing
More build up, or at least excitement when doing the real thing. When you crank it, you are doing it just to get to your own.
The full body work and emotion physical contact and since i am heterosexual being inside a woman frnt or back is just not even in the same league as a hand job even let alone self service..
oh and for me “i want your baby” shhhhhet..
You have to stop doing it in Walmart
Sex feels great of course, but it’s largely about making sure that my wife is happy, holding back, and doing what works for her. I love her and love making her happy, and it’s definitely a workout with a happy ending.
Mastrubation, on the other hand, is all about me. I go at my own pace, gradually stimulate myself, buildup and then eventually explode exactly when im ready. So the payoff is usually bigger.
Someone is a selfish lover.