I (24M) have been dating a (23F) I met on Bumble for about 2 months. In the first month, she was everything I ever dreamed of – sweet, affectionate, made me feel loved in a way I always wanted. But now things are very different.
She expects me to pay for her things, and I’ve found myself not even spending on my own essentials (sometimes even skipping food) just to save for her. Whenever I try to question or be reasonable about expenses, she gets angry or verbally abusive.
I’ve also noticed a pattern: she’s affectionate, loving, sends me photos, says she’s proud of me only when she wants something. Otherwise, she’s distant or harsh. On top of that, she’s told me multiple times that “there’s no future” between us because we are from different castes.
It’s only been 2 months, but my mental health already feels like it’s going down the drain. I’m anxious all the time and feel like I can’t even express my feelings without starting a fight.
I know deep down this isn’t healthy, but I still love her, and the memory of how she treated me in the beginning keeps me hooked. I want to detach, but I don’t know how to do it without collapsing emotionally.
My question: How do I start detaching myself from someone who clearly doesn’t see a future with me, but whom I still love deeply?