I've been with my boyfriend Peter for a year. We live in a country where none of us is originally.
I have met his best friend Charlie. Charlie is one of my least favourite people in the world. Everytime I interact with him I feel drained. He has a way to objectify women and just an approach to life that I don't share.
Anyways, Charlie is getting married next year in another country (over 24 h flights with connections). He invited my boyfriend and extended the invitation to me.
Initially my boyfriend Peter said we could go together and make a holiday out of it. We'd go to the wedding for one day and then take 3 weeks just the two of us. I was excited.
Today Peter told me the actual date of the wedding and informed me he's doing a guys trip (with Charlie and other male friends), they'll be doing 9 days around the country and I was welcome to join them. Mind you, this is just his group of male friends, not even the wife is invited. I said it sounded much like a bachelor's trip and I wouldn't fit in there.
I felt hurt that he changed the initial 3 weeks romantic plans for a "I'm going with my mates, you're welcome to join us".
I acknowledge he has the right to travel with his friends and to celebrate the bachelor. But I can't help and feel hurt.
He also said he would under if I prefer not to join. It feels almost like he's expecting me not to go.
Can you please advise me, am I being over sensitive about this? Shall I look for a compromised solution like he going with his mates first, then I'd join for the wedding and then have some travel by myself?
Or shall I skip the wedding all together (I'd be paying for my overseas tickets, a dress, make up, all that jazz) or if I should better use that time and money on a solo trip.
I dislike Charlie as a person, and I haven't met the bride.