Over a year ago, my boyfriend asked me if I could lend him 500$ for his credit card, and he told me he would pay me back immediately. A year and 4 months ago have passed and he only mentioned it to me once (6 months ago) about how he hasn't forgot about paying me. Ok. I tell him their is no rush about it. A couple months pass by and we are going to this amusement park and he asks me if I have a couple bucks on me because he wants to get drawn (one of those goofy artists that draw you over exaggerated) BUT by himself not me in it… I feel so weirded out, and he tells me "oh it's going to be too much if it's us both" Immediately I feel off, and at this point I don't even want to get drawn and I just give him the money for it (30$) again, he tells me he'll pay me back coming home.
Well months passed by and he didn't, nor even mentioned it. In my mind i'm like it's just 30$, what am I fussing over for? So I just let it go.
However recently, we wanted (he invited me) to go to this event upon paying, he asked me if I had around 100$ (I was already annoyed) but I gave in and gave it to him because I wanted to go to this event as well, then again "i'll pay you back the next day" well, a couple days has passed by and he doesn't even mention anything about it. It's ME that brings it up, and he tells me oh "i'll pay you back don't worry" and he hits me with
"unless you wanna pay for it?" Mind you it was 80$
(I'm saving up for a concert that I would like to buy us tickets for, now i'm not so sure)
I roll my eyes through the call, because I feel weirded out and annoyed already… I hate bringing it up bc I feel like i'm being pushy about, however (i'm noone to judge how one spends their money, to each their own) but how am I supposed to feel when I see him constantly spending money on things for HIMSELF (that he really does not need) and has not payed me back? I can't keep on bringing it up over and over to him because then I feel like a loan shark.
None of the times I have "lended" him money have I seen back. It's like their is no self discipline with him, how are you not responsible enough to atleast stash a couple of bucks every week or so to pay me back? Why is it me that has to bring it up to you, bc if I don't you will not under any circumstance.
If it was me asking him for money, I would TRY to pay him back.
I would be stashing a couple bucks of my paycheck every week to pay you back fast and get that out the way.
If I can not pay you back in that moment I would tell you, explain to you, tell you, let you know!
Last thing I want is for you to have to ask me, and think I will never pay you back.
This man on some occasions when we got to the store I would last minute need something, and he would offer to pay for it but be like but you can pay me back" after.
it was like 5$…. 🙂
My mood dropped and I didn't need/want it anymore.
I'm not pointing out the guy is bad or stern with his money but why is this man telling me this?
I appreciate everything he has paid for for me sincerely but it's recently where i'm just saddened at the fact when I think about all this.
I can't keep on constantly bringing it up on "will I see my money back" I know it's my money, and I can ask for it, but there is a limit when you know that person does not want to pay you back. It being your boyfriend.