How comfortable are you dating someone who uses drugs?
August 16, 2025
If it's casual or regular?
40 comments
Depends on the drug
Why, in what context and what substance. If it’s clearly an addiction pattern or a sign the person is avoidant in general, I’d be wary of it. If it’s even a suspected active addiction it would be a dealbreaker for me. This includes posting on social media, gaming or workaholism.
It depends on the drug. A bit of weed at the weekend is fine. Anything stronger and it’s a no from me.
As comfortable if I was having my nails pulled while someone pours acid into my eyes. Drug use would 100% no for me. Legal and regulated cannabis under doctor’s order would be alright, long as it’s actually for real need and safe.
Maybe like an edible or some weed like once or twice a year with friends. That’s my limit 🤣.
Absolutely no!
Cigarettes and any hard drug is a automatic turn off.
Weed occasionally is ok if she’s been stressing out a bit. But to do it every week I’m good, still don’t understand how people like the smell of that shit like it’s part of a bed, bath, and beyond scented collection or whatever.
im not. I like a clean life
Nope. Personally, I don’t drink or smoke and I would prefer to date someone who doesn’t do that either. So drugs use would be too much for me.
Edit: I forgot to circle back my statement to drug use lol.
Been there, done that, trying to forget it. He was abusive and the drugs sure weren’t helping him to treat me right.
No never again
Hard no. I don’t smoke and I rarely drink, so I would prefer someone with the same habits as me.
Me and my boyfriend both smoke weed pretty regularly, we don’t do it on important days or infront of family but it’s something we both enjoy so it’s nice to share a hobby. Anything other than weed is a huge no from me though.
I assume we aren’t talking aspirin here?
If it’s recreational substances, then all I have to say is that it’s personally not for me.
I think it’s a big ask to share a living space with someone who makes it smell, as marijuana does, when your significant other doesn’t use it themselves. An ask to which my answer is, no thanks.
I also don’t particularly want to be with someone who periodically intoxicates themselves. You’re just counting down the minutes until they fall asleep or it wears off. I don’t want to count down my life, I want to live it with someone who is present, as I am.
I don’t judge people who engage with it because it’s none of my business what others do when it doesn’t affect me. Being in a relationship changes that because it then does affect me.
Me and my partner do cigs and weed. We did a few fun LSD trips in the past but it‘s been months lol
Not confortable at all. That’s a big no.
The occasional joint, fine. A bump at a gig out with mates or at a party, I’m also fine with. A habit, nope. I’ve got a mate that overdid it with weed and Ket and he had to go cold Turkey, it was the only way. It’s been exhausting on our friendship but it’s lovely to see him coming out the other side of things. If there was a romantic element to the relationship I’d have noped out to protect myself from heartbreak.
I don’t care as long as it doesn’t give any issues. Money issues or not responding for hours/days on text. As long as it doesn’t effect me I’m cool with it.
A hard no.
dealbreaker tbh.
If it’s natural, recreational, and not a coping mechanism sure
I’m fine with light usage of weed, mushrooms, or alcohol, but not to the level where they’re needed to function. Hard no on all other drugs
If it’s recreational and they still have a functional life fine however if it’s everyday even weed (which I can’t stand the smell of ) no
No.
Absolutely not.
Few times a year sure for powder and pills, but no stoners (very unattractive) and no heavy drinkers
Zero. Zero comfortable.
I wouldn’t be able to relate to them, so the answer is no
That’s a big no no, too much of a slippery slope.
I cannot deal with any level of drug use, even just weed.
A big no
Weed only. Dated a heroin addict once… my god..
I mean I didn’t know he was until we were already deep in it
Depends on what type of drugs and their use.
I am happier to date someone who smokes marijuana than I am someone who drinks alcohol frequently.
I would not get involved with anyone using harder substances or drugs of dependence. Not only are they liable to spiral out of control and behave irrationally when needing a fix, but they are also extremely undependable.
And – more selfishly – most of them have sexual issues (cant get hard, cant stay hard, stay hard too long because they cant orgasm etc etc).
It’s a no for me
I casually and responsibly do some drugs, and I never dabbled until my late 20s. I’d prefer a partner who also is comfortable with occasional drug use, because it’s fun. Anyone who is seriously addicted, or an alcoholic, or binges without control when they aren’t sober, that wouldn’t be partner material for me.
I was very anti-drugs-and-alcohol when young, and a lot of the views I held them were wildly incorrect. Someone who blindly judges responsible recreational intoxication at our age (late thirties here and I don’t date the youths) would also be incompatible.
Depends if they had a decent dealer!
It does depend on the drugs (the really serious stuff isn’t cool), and the frequency of use, and the culture and people they surround themselves with.
Very comfortable considering I use drugs 🙂
Also It depends on the kind. Weed, LSD, MDMA? Hell yeah bro let’s have a great weekend.
Heroin, meth? Nah miss me with that shit
Weed is whatever. My bf smokes weed everyday. “Hard drugs” like party drugs every once in awhile I don’t mind. My friend dated a coke head and that’s a hard no for me. Anything you do everyday I’m cautious. I don’t mind my bf smoked weed since it doesn’t really change his personality if he’s stoned or sober. He’s still just as loving and nurturing
I dunno me and my fiancée have an extremely safe and open relationship with psychedelics. When he wants to go on a journey with his friends (who I adore) I applaud that, just a few boys adventuring in the woods or playing frisbee in nature? Love it.
Or we’ll do that with friends together some time. Go to the beach or walk around forests just exploring and connecting together.
People who have done this understand how NOT scary this world is, but how it’s still so taboo to talk about.
Oh and we will sometimes have hash at home snuggling.
Nothing scary or spooky here.
Nothing addictive either.
Just good vibes and open communication about a substance that we’ve both used for wonder, whimsy and therapy.
I prefer it. But it depends on the drugs and quantity.
I do smoke weed regularly, and every once in a while, I like to take hallucinogenic substances.
For me, it’s a plus being able to share those experiences with a partner and I’m able to relate better to someone who has experiences or curiosity for them.
buuut I’d never date a regular cocaine use for example. Some substances are not my thing and I don’t like people high on it.
40 comments
Depends on the drug
Why, in what context and what substance. If it’s clearly an addiction pattern or a sign the person is avoidant in general, I’d be wary of it. If it’s even a suspected active addiction it would be a dealbreaker for me. This includes posting on social media, gaming or workaholism.
It depends on the drug. A bit of weed at the weekend is fine. Anything stronger and it’s a no from me.
As comfortable if I was having my nails pulled while someone pours acid into my eyes. Drug use would 100% no for me. Legal and regulated cannabis under doctor’s order would be alright, long as it’s actually for real need and safe.
Maybe like an edible or some weed like once or twice a year with friends. That’s my limit 🤣.
Absolutely no!
Cigarettes and any hard drug is a automatic turn off.
Weed occasionally is ok if she’s been stressing out a bit. But to do it every week I’m good, still don’t understand how people like the smell of that shit like it’s part of a bed, bath, and beyond scented collection or whatever.
im not. I like a clean life
Nope. Personally, I don’t drink or smoke and I would prefer to date someone who doesn’t do that either. So drugs use would be too much for me.
Edit: I forgot to circle back my statement to drug use lol.
Been there, done that, trying to forget it. He was abusive and the drugs sure weren’t helping him to treat me right.
No never again
Hard no. I don’t smoke and I rarely drink, so I would prefer someone with the same habits as me.
Me and my boyfriend both smoke weed pretty regularly, we don’t do it on important days or infront of family but it’s something we both enjoy so it’s nice to share a hobby. Anything other than weed is a huge no from me though.
I assume we aren’t talking aspirin here?
If it’s recreational substances, then all I have to say is that it’s personally not for me.
I think it’s a big ask to share a living space with someone who makes it smell, as marijuana does, when your significant other doesn’t use it themselves. An ask to which my answer is, no thanks.
I also don’t particularly want to be with someone who periodically intoxicates themselves. You’re just counting down the minutes until they fall asleep or it wears off. I don’t want to count down my life, I want to live it with someone who is present, as I am.
I don’t judge people who engage with it because it’s none of my business what others do when it doesn’t affect me. Being in a relationship changes that because it then does affect me.
Me and my partner do cigs and weed. We did a few fun LSD trips in the past but it‘s been months lol
Not confortable at all. That’s a big no.
The occasional joint, fine. A bump at a gig out with mates or at a party, I’m also fine with. A habit, nope. I’ve got a mate that overdid it with weed and Ket and he had to go cold Turkey, it was the only way. It’s been exhausting on our friendship but it’s lovely to see him coming out the other side of things. If there was a romantic element to the relationship I’d have noped out to protect myself from heartbreak.
I don’t care as long as it doesn’t give any issues. Money issues or not responding for hours/days on text. As long as it doesn’t effect me I’m cool with it.
A hard no.
dealbreaker tbh.
If it’s natural, recreational, and not a coping mechanism sure
I’m fine with light usage of weed, mushrooms, or alcohol, but not to the level where they’re needed to function. Hard no on all other drugs
If it’s recreational and they still have a functional life fine however if it’s everyday even weed (which I can’t stand the smell of ) no
No.
Absolutely not.
Few times a year sure for powder and pills, but no stoners (very unattractive) and no heavy drinkers
Zero. Zero comfortable.
I wouldn’t be able to relate to them, so the answer is no
That’s a big no no, too much of a slippery slope.
I cannot deal with any level of drug use, even just weed.
A big no
Weed only. Dated a heroin addict once… my god..
I mean I didn’t know he was until we were already deep in it
Depends on what type of drugs and their use.
I am happier to date someone who smokes marijuana than I am someone who drinks alcohol frequently.
I would not get involved with anyone using harder substances or drugs of dependence. Not only are they liable to spiral out of control and behave irrationally when needing a fix, but they are also extremely undependable.
And – more selfishly – most of them have sexual issues (cant get hard, cant stay hard, stay hard too long because they cant orgasm etc etc).
It’s a no for me
I casually and responsibly do some drugs, and I never dabbled until my late 20s. I’d prefer a partner who also is comfortable with occasional drug use, because it’s fun. Anyone who is seriously addicted, or an alcoholic, or binges without control when they aren’t sober, that wouldn’t be partner material for me.
I was very anti-drugs-and-alcohol when young, and a lot of the views I held them were wildly incorrect. Someone who blindly judges responsible recreational intoxication at our age (late thirties here and I don’t date the youths) would also be incompatible.
Depends if they had a decent dealer!
It does depend on the drugs (the really serious stuff isn’t cool), and the frequency of use, and the culture and people they surround themselves with.
Very comfortable considering I use drugs 🙂
Also It depends on the kind. Weed, LSD, MDMA? Hell yeah bro let’s have a great weekend.
Heroin, meth? Nah miss me with that shit
Weed is whatever. My bf smokes weed everyday. “Hard drugs” like party drugs every once in awhile I don’t mind. My friend dated a coke head and that’s a hard no for me. Anything you do everyday I’m cautious. I don’t mind my bf smoked weed since it doesn’t really change his personality if he’s stoned or sober. He’s still just as loving and nurturing
I dunno me and my fiancée have an extremely safe and open relationship with psychedelics. When he wants to go on a journey with his friends (who I adore) I applaud that, just a few boys adventuring in the woods or playing frisbee in nature? Love it.
Or we’ll do that with friends together some time. Go to the beach or walk around forests just exploring and connecting together.
People who have done this understand how NOT scary this world is, but how it’s still so taboo to talk about.
Oh and we will sometimes have hash at home snuggling.
Nothing scary or spooky here.
Nothing addictive either.
Just good vibes and open communication about a substance that we’ve both used for wonder, whimsy and therapy.
I prefer it. But it depends on the drugs and quantity.
I do smoke weed regularly, and every once in a while, I like to take hallucinogenic substances.
For me, it’s a plus being able to share those experiences with a partner and I’m able to relate better to someone who has experiences or curiosity for them.
buuut I’d never date a regular cocaine use for example. Some substances are not my thing and I don’t like people high on it.