So, I’ve met this man online and we hit things off instantly. The connection feels real and passionate.
Days turn by and the conversation accelerates. We’re now talking INTENTIONALLY – he’s giving me constant compliments, and has made silly jokes around “finding his wife” and the girl he’s been waiting for. While talking he mentioned he doesn’t use social media, has Instagram but hasn’t logged in all year – despite having thousands of followers. However, a few days prior I found his Instagram – gave the mandatory scan to make sure he’s not a catfish. I didn’t mind this, but afterwards I noticed he went on private which made me unsure if he was lying, over exaggerating or what…
After two weeks of romantic communication, we finally go on a date.
He’s very attractive, out going and has a lot of emotional depth. He mentioned I’m his first date in a couple years (which I found hard to believe) and seems to be in some financial difficulty as he struggled to pay for the date which he made very clear. I don’t think he has either a steady stream of income or a job. I really don’t mind this but I am aware of how this might be a burden because he lives hours away in the countryside.
The date was lovely, but he was very very forward. Which I love a man who knows what he wants but my intuition is spiking but it might very well be low self-esteem. He also mentioned that he deleted the dating app we met on, but I noticed he still has his profile.
He made a big big big effort to make it clear he wanted to wait for sex but didn’t mind being flirty. He said he wanted to wait but then seemed to float between this and making jokes around staying around mine.
All this to say. I like him, but don’t know if it’s tooooo big of a risk to see him again knowing how keen he is and potential love bombing. I like him, but don’t know if there’s a problem here or if it’s just me overthinking.
Do I call things off? Or keep going?