As stated in the title, I am (19NB) and my boyfriend is (18M)
((Sorry, this is a long post!!))
My boyfriend has good qualities, I can admit, but recently all I've been able to witness is his lack of care for things. I've recently moved in with him so we could both escape unpleasant and even dangerous home lives, and a few months in I'm starting to feel like I traded one evil for another. My boyfriend often creates unpleasant and dangerous situations on accident or even on purpose. Some of which are leaving food out for our dog to get, leaving the oven and stove on, putting chemicals near things they shouldn't be near, leaving food to rot in the fridge for weeks at a time despite being asked to remove it, setting matches inside just to watch them, not caring for our dog properly, etc etc.
His most recent problem was today. I realized there was a strange smell coming from the kitchen today and lo and behold, he hadn't thrown away the tub of spaghetti I asked him to throw away a WEEK ago. It was sitting in the fridge creating an unpleasant smell, and most definitely rotting. I told him for the final time to actually get rid of it and that I couldn't believe I had to ask more than twice. He eventually got up to throw away the spaghetti and when he popped open the lid… disgusting. The stench has completely filled our apartment and it is HORRID. I'm currently airing out the bedroom in an attempt to rid the smell and it's hardly working. I fear the "food" being in the fridge rotting for so long may mean there's mold spores within the fridge and I'll have to discard everything inside and clean the it.
I'm am so over this, this feels like a last straw for me, but our lease isn't up till next May and I have no idea how to continue tolerating this. I have OCD as it is and he's drastically triggering to the point I even feel disgusted to kiss him now. How can I fix this?? If he won't change his behavior, how can I feel safe at home knowing he's just one accident away from severely poisoning someone or setting this apartment on fire??
(FYI, I am not very financially stable, nor do I have my liscense, so I'm in quite the tough spot. Please don't shame me and say "you should've thought about it more before moving out" because I had no way of knowing these were challenges to face and I am already regretful)
Tl;dr, my boyfriend is creating a dangerous living environment for me (leaving rotting food in the fridge, leaving oven+stove on) and I don't know how to address this. My lease isn't up till May, how can I feel safe at home till then?