So me [22F] and my 5 year bf [23M] have been having some recent arguments. Mainly because of financial issues or splitting the load when it comes to our son…
To put it into perspective, I work full time as does he, we use a private daycare so sometimes she does take a week long vacay.
Last year when she took a vacay I had taken a lot more of the responsibility to take time off to watch him, and due to the fact that I work in a family business and they are ( for the most part) understanding…
So this time around comes and he is saying he has xyz todo in his job site and he won’t be able to take much of the responsibility this time, maybe one day of the 8. He is a great father but he lacks when it comes to providing, for me our us.
85% of the time I buy groceries and household items… and im lucky if he will send a couple bucks to help. He says he’s going todo something and doesn’t for weeks or doesn’t at all, like if I ask him to go get some new outfits for our son ( because as you guessed usually that is my responsibility).
In the whole 5 years he hasn’t paid for my nails or anything even for me ( that is the least important but still )
Or in this case if OUR son is off and we have to find a way around work to watch him I would have to get my family to give me the time off and make up for it elsewhere.
But this time around my family just opened another store and we are swamped with hiring more people and working almost 6 days a week every week ourselves taking a day or two off can be hard. He is an amazing father and a great guy, we’ve talked it out plenty times but we never can see eye to eye.
I’m upset he cannot provide more for the amount he works and I’m also upset I have to financially help ALOT and do everything else a wife should do and more even.
You might ask why id stick around or am I crazy but Id hope he’d change and get better with time but idk if things are changing or getting worse
TLDR ;
have been w bf for a while and haven’t got even much financial support and even when it comes to splitting the parental responsibilities it’s Alot on me , it’s An argument when I try and express my feelings and if I stay quiet it’ll eat me up.