I’m starting to think I’m not capable of a healthy relationship after this.
I went on 4 dates with a guy. After the fourth date, I asked whether he was dating other people and he said ‘I’m not at the moment as I’ve not had the time’. It seemed vague and circumstancial but I let it go and planned to raise it with him when I saw him. We’re both dating for a relationship and I don’t multi date. I will walk away if someone else does once a connection is established.
In his next message, he shared a story about a neighbour saying their daughter wanted to approach him but she was too scared. He told the neighbour ‘well I’m not a scary guy’. He then says to me ‘they made it sound like she had a crush on me. I don’t even know how old she is or what she looks like’.
Maybe I jumped to conclusions but this sounded to me like he was letting me know he is open to other women after his vague answer too. I sent him a message saying we’re not on the same page and I wish him well.
He then backtracked a bit but still wasn’t clear on whether he would just be dating me.
We got back in touch and tried to resolve things. It was going well and he then suddenly said that I had snuffed out the spark by my reaction, that I jumped to conclusions and was catastrophising, that his answer was fine given it’s early days and that he was just sharing funny story.
I just found it a strange that he mentioned their looks and age. That only felt relevant if he was interested in dating others.
I feel like I’ve ruined something and like maybe I’m too reactive or emotionally unhealthy for a healthy relationship.
Did I handle this really badly? I feel confused.