What’s something you used to do that felt essential to your identity, but now you can’t imagine caring about, and how did you let it go?
August 14, 2025
What’s something you used to do that felt essential to your identity, but now you can’t imagine caring about, and how did you let it go?
22 comments
Wearing makeup lol
Wearing earrings. My hair getting tangled in them in the windy weather was just not very fun.
I was trained in music from an early age and got very good at it. Maybe could have done it professionally. Then just let it go for some reason. Hardly think about it anymore and it used to be such a huge part of me. So weird
Clothing brands.
External validation. I’m tired of bending over backwards for people do not care for me. You will never be everyone’s cup of tea and as long as you’re not hurting anyone or yourself that’s okay.
Getting my nails done
I was raised by a glamor queen. My mom never leaves the house wo makeup and being dressed up. So I in turn didn’t either. I’d spend 2 hrs a day getting ready. Now I only do my makeup when I have an event and don’t regularly style my hair other than to brush it/ wash it. 🤷🏻♀️
My mom hates it and always reminds me “you never know who you’re gonna meet one day” but I’m lucky enough not to need makeup to be pretty or presentable anyways. It’s more of a hobby for me now.
Being overly agreeable to avoid conflict.
Treating everyone with respect, not everyone deserves my respect. Hard lesson learned.
That everyone should be happy with me and around me.
That’s their burden to carry and not mine. People can be going through a lot and it has nothing to do with me. Took years to process this. Sometimes still get stuck doing so and analyzing what went wrong. It’s an uphill battle but I’m getting there.
Being liked or accepted by others.
I used to smoke. Like, a lot. Almost two packs aday. I quit April 2012. I calculated what I spent on a yearly basis on cigarettes, and the number was high enough for me to finally quit cold turkey and never light another cigarette. I had tried to quit many times before but kept falling back in, but it was seeing how much money I wasted away that finally made me quit for good.
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☘️ Weed would be n1 here I used to smoke religiously since I was 13yo to my 16. But it came back at 18 and stopped at 19 until now (im 30 now).
It was still extremely important in my life, songs, friends and even my family were all about it… I hated this life so badly.
🔞 Sex and p0rn… that was a big one also… again… even more interconnected than Weed because all Social medias, all friends and many games were linked to this problem 😔 !
It took me a long time to rewire my brain and tell myself that this was simply breaking my life. Even all my relationships were based around those things… it was horrible !
🎮 Gaming was the other part of those BIG 3 issues lol… Gaming was everything for me… I wanted to end my life to be reborn in video games and virtual worlds (Obviously linked to the p0rn addiction also 😮💨)… in truth I wanted to escape Weed but Weed was an escape from traumas… so it was all a huge mess…
Since im 15 I was spending insane amounts of money and time on video games AND EVEN STEAL MONEY FROM MY MOTHER 😭 !!
I was a liar… an abuser… and still I believed I was good and had a life lol…
Gaming was where I forgot about all my bad actions, all the bad others did to me also.
From a young age I would put over 10 000 hours into some games, the more toxic the better… Spent over 10k$ from my mother on video games just to get all of it deleted because I got banned for hacking lol !!
I also was stealing people’s money online to afford games… it was insane.
I regret all of this. I know its a bit WAY more problematic than what the question was here but I LOVE to be open and accountable about what I did ! My story deserves to be heard whenever it is fitting lol. I hope this wasn’t too invading but YES… A Gamer, Sex Addict who LOVES Drugs was MY WHOLE identity.
☮️ Today I guess the 2 biggest things that defines my personality would be Self Growth and funnily enough, Psychedelics lol.
Even tho I bad trip on psychedelics… I wouldn’t be here without these… there are tones of real studies about how it can help breaks addictions and I am simply another proof here… hence why its so important and meaningful to me 🥺
I genuinely hope people can learn from my story also 🥹💖
Try to be beautiful for my boyfriend, but now I know I’m not his type so it doesn’t feel like it matters.
Veganism.
Smoking weed. It started giving me panic attacks so I gave it up. Haven’t looked back.
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Trying to be this girly bubble.
I have a confident rbf, you either deal with this or don’t. I am not mean, I am self-aware, I am calm but I am not the smiley type and you know what? I like things this way but if I smile it’s genuine, not polite 😎
Drinking. Vegetarianism. Liberalism (much more left now).
Smoking weed all day, every day. I let it go after I was arrested & put on probation. The withdrawals were tough, but honestly, it was what I needed to open my eyes.
overachieve. in high school/college i tried my hardest to be among the best. then i got a job and decided i’d rather do the bare minimum.
22 comments
Wearing makeup lol
Wearing earrings. My hair getting tangled in them in the windy weather was just not very fun.
I was trained in music from an early age and got very good at it. Maybe could have done it professionally. Then just let it go for some reason. Hardly think about it anymore and it used to be such a huge part of me. So weird
Clothing brands.
External validation. I’m tired of bending over backwards for people do not care for me. You will never be everyone’s cup of tea and as long as you’re not hurting anyone or yourself that’s okay.
Getting my nails done
I was raised by a glamor queen. My mom never leaves the house wo makeup and being dressed up. So I in turn didn’t either. I’d spend 2 hrs a day getting ready. Now I only do my makeup when I have an event and don’t regularly style my hair other than to brush it/ wash it. 🤷🏻♀️
My mom hates it and always reminds me “you never know who you’re gonna meet one day” but I’m lucky enough not to need makeup to be pretty or presentable anyways. It’s more of a hobby for me now.
Being overly agreeable to avoid conflict.
Treating everyone with respect, not everyone deserves my respect. Hard lesson learned.
That everyone should be happy with me and around me.
That’s their burden to carry and not mine. People can be going through a lot and it has nothing to do with me. Took years to process this. Sometimes still get stuck doing so and analyzing what went wrong. It’s an uphill battle but I’m getting there.
Being liked or accepted by others.
I used to smoke. Like, a lot. Almost two packs aday. I quit April 2012. I calculated what I spent on a yearly basis on cigarettes, and the number was high enough for me to finally quit cold turkey and never light another cigarette. I had tried to quit many times before but kept falling back in, but it was seeing how much money I wasted away that finally made me quit for good.
[removed]
☘️ Weed would be n1 here I used to smoke religiously since I was 13yo to my 16. But it came back at 18 and stopped at 19 until now (im 30 now).
It was still extremely important in my life, songs, friends and even my family were all about it… I hated this life so badly.
🔞 Sex and p0rn… that was a big one also… again… even more interconnected than Weed because all Social medias, all friends and many games were linked to this problem 😔 !
It took me a long time to rewire my brain and tell myself that this was simply breaking my life. Even all my relationships were based around those things… it was horrible !
🎮 Gaming was the other part of those BIG 3 issues lol… Gaming was everything for me… I wanted to end my life to be reborn in video games and virtual worlds (Obviously linked to the p0rn addiction also 😮💨)… in truth I wanted to escape Weed but Weed was an escape from traumas… so it was all a huge mess…
Since im 15 I was spending insane amounts of money and time on video games AND EVEN STEAL MONEY FROM MY MOTHER 😭 !!
I was a liar… an abuser… and still I believed I was good and had a life lol…
Gaming was where I forgot about all my bad actions, all the bad others did to me also.
From a young age I would put over 10 000 hours into some games, the more toxic the better… Spent over 10k$ from my mother on video games just to get all of it deleted because I got banned for hacking lol !!
I also was stealing people’s money online to afford games… it was insane.
I regret all of this. I know its a bit WAY more problematic than what the question was here but I LOVE to be open and accountable about what I did ! My story deserves to be heard whenever it is fitting lol. I hope this wasn’t too invading but YES… A Gamer, Sex Addict who LOVES Drugs was MY WHOLE identity.
☮️ Today I guess the 2 biggest things that defines my personality would be Self Growth and funnily enough, Psychedelics lol.
Even tho I bad trip on psychedelics… I wouldn’t be here without these… there are tones of real studies about how it can help breaks addictions and I am simply another proof here… hence why its so important and meaningful to me 🥺
I genuinely hope people can learn from my story also 🥹💖
Try to be beautiful for my boyfriend, but now I know I’m not his type so it doesn’t feel like it matters.
Veganism.
Smoking weed. It started giving me panic attacks so I gave it up. Haven’t looked back.
[removed]
Trying to be this girly bubble.
I have a confident rbf, you either deal with this or don’t. I am not mean, I am self-aware, I am calm but I am not the smiley type and you know what? I like things this way but if I smile it’s genuine, not polite 😎
Drinking. Vegetarianism. Liberalism (much more left now).
Smoking weed all day, every day. I let it go after I was arrested & put on probation. The withdrawals were tough, but honestly, it was what I needed to open my eyes.
overachieve. in high school/college i tried my hardest to be among the best. then i got a job and decided i’d rather do the bare minimum.