How do you tell the difference between healthy boundary-setting and closing yourself off out of fear of repeating the past ?
August 14, 2025
How do you tell the difference between healthy boundary-setting and closing yourself off out of fear of repeating the past ?
5 comments
Ask a therapist or just any sane friend that you know will answer truthfully.
It takes time. You will eventually be able to distinguish between what you’re not willing to settle for again.. vs.. dwelling on past situations that didn’t go the way you wanted. I feel this experience is different for everyone.
I can’t and it fucking hurts like hell.
it’s very hard to say I’d say if it’s not destroying all aspects of your social life (as long as you’re happy with it), you’ll be fine
Trust your gut. If the interaction seems draining afterwards, then that’s your cue. That’s what I follow. Especially if you’re doing or forced to do all the heavy lifting.
5 comments
Ask a therapist or just any sane friend that you know will answer truthfully.
It takes time. You will eventually be able to distinguish between what you’re not willing to settle for again.. vs.. dwelling on past situations that didn’t go the way you wanted. I feel this experience is different for everyone.
I can’t and it fucking hurts like hell.
it’s very hard to say I’d say if it’s not destroying all aspects of your social life (as long as you’re happy with it), you’ll be fine
Trust your gut. If the interaction seems draining afterwards, then that’s your cue. That’s what I follow. Especially if you’re doing or forced to do all the heavy lifting.