How would you feel if your spouse told you that they were not really enamored with you on a regular basis to want to kiss you or give affection. That basically they let how I made them feel during certain incidents make this chasm over time and they couldn't address it in the moment because we were too busy so they just let it build up and cause this rift. I said this back to them to clarify that is what I heard and they got all upset and defensive and I was told I took it the wrong way. I don't feel you can throw those words out and then be like oh take backsies nvm! I truly felt shattered by it all.