I (41m) and my wife (44f) have been together for 20years, married 17. We also have a 14 year old son and only child because of pregnancy complications.
We just purchased a home and moved from a rural area to a large city because my son got accepted to a really good private school and he also plays hockey for the city and we're constantly driving back and forth, about 30miles. My wife's work is also .5 miles from where we purchased the home. I will still be working from where we use to live. We're also renting out our old home.
We've known we're going to move about a month ago, so we've had plenty of time to pack and prepare for the move. But we only had 2 days from closing on our new house till the new tenants move into our old home because my wife took a deal with the new tenants. The deal was they would pay 1 year up front if they can move up their move in date by 2 weeks. She did not discuss this with me which I was a little upset about, but I kept my mouth shut because it can be done, just need to prepare.
I am beyond frustrated with my wife because of this move. I have done at least 90% of the packing and preparing. During this process I have repeatedly asked for help and have heard excuses: tax free weekend, work, not feeling well, need to see my parents, etc. Today we had professional movers coming and everything had to be boxed up and ready for the movers before they arrive. I had to work a 12hr shift yesterday. The only thing left was her personal belongings and a few kitchen essential items. When I got home yesterday, the only thing she did was move a few of her clothes to the new house. I had to finish packing her belongings and the kitchen items for today because she said she wasn't feeling good and was going to bed. I was up till midnight packing and the movers were coming at 830am.
So this morning my wife was suppose to help with the move, but when I get up she tells me she has to go to work for a few hours and she can't get out of it. Fuck me, I thought to myself. After she left I sent her text telling her that this whole process has been really difficult for me and that I really needed a partner. She just said well I wanted to be there.
This evening the movers have left and my wife shows up after work. I just started unpacking things. Decided to prioritize beds first when I look up and I see her changed into her swimming suit taking a dip in the pool. I said to myself, "fuck it, we're sleeping in the floor tonight." Opened a beer and chilling on the back porch. I'm done.
This whole process has really changed the way I see her now. I am so frustrated I'm thinking of leaving for few days, maybe for awhile or forever if it wasn't for my son.
I will also say that I do most of the house work because of my work schedule and this hasn't really been an issue, but it might be now. She also is medicated for ADHD in her defense and I try to be understanding, but I don't think I can do this anymore. Sorry, I'm just venting.