If your partner asked you to cut off all opposite sex friends because he/she feels uncomfortable with you having them, what would you do?
August 13, 2025
If your partner asked you to cut off all opposite sex friends because he/she feels uncomfortable with you having them, what would you do?
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Laugh because she’d be joking. There’s no way she’d seriously mean that and it’s part of why I married her.
I’d also probably jokingly ask her if she just wanted me to have 0 friends, seeing as I’m bi.
If she were serious, it would be a fundamental incompatibility that would likely lead to our relationship ending.
Cut said partner off man
I would no longer be in that relationship. I value friendships with people of all sexes, and if my partner cannot trust me to be just friends with them, clearly we don’t have an acceptable foundation of trust.
Break up with this person immediately. That’s both ridiculous and a red flag for trying to begin isolating someone. It often escalates to cutting off friends and family as well.
Find a new partner.
That relationship would be over and I would be gone before he finished that sentence.
Laugh in their face and end the relationship immediately.
It’s a social isolation tactic, which is a classic abuser move. It also demonstrates that they are ruled by their insecurities and haven’t done the amount of emotional work on themselves that is a prerequisite for being a partner of mine.
Plus I’m bisexual and non-monogamous, so it’s just exceedingly dumb.
Break up, that just weird man. If I’m you’re partner you’re supposed to trust me, otherwise the relationship makes no sense
he wouldn’t be my partner anymore. I have no time for an insecure person who wants to control me just to mange his insecurity; aint nobody got time for that.
Cut them off, stat. That is a telltale sign of emotionL control.
Well, there is the classic bi problem. I have had past partners be jealous of male friends which tells me they don’t take bisexuality seriously, which is an extra cherry on top of the jealousy.
But no, I would not put up with that. Trust is vital. If you don’t think I’m the type of person who can – and wants to – remain faithful, then why do you even like me?
Obviously that’s a big red flag. My s/o has a lot of friends that are the opposite sex and there are parts of it that make me really uncomfortable, but I’d never make him cut them out. I respect the sanctity of friendships and his own autonomy, I wouldn’t want to be controlling and I wouldn’t expect him to make me cut out my friends. But it’s also weird bc I don’t know what to do with my feelings of being uncomfortable with some of his friendship dynamics. I guess that opens space for conversations about boundaries 🤷🏻♀️
I would be single. I would wish them well and tell them that they should seek therapy to deal with their insecurities and trust issues in romantic relationships before pursuing another relationship so that they can develop healthier communication methods instead of requiring their partner to remove friends because of their gender.
Depends on the person – if it was someone I had romantic history with where there’s potential for unfinished business or a guy who was only pretending to me a friend but had ulterior motives then sure.
Anything else then no, absolutely not. Cutting off people isn’t going to fix insecurities now is it?
Break up immediately. Toxic insecurity is a dealbreaker.
Clear insecurity aside… I’m attracted to all genders, so that would be an odd thing to ask me. I’m as likely to run off with a woman as I am a man, so they’d basically have to ask me to not have friends in which case I’d say that’s the end of that relationship!
Leave. Immediately.
Dump them.
I’d probably dip on the relationship. That’s just not a healthy mindset unless he were to do it because I had a history of cheating or crossing boundaries. But because I don’t it’s a no
Get a new partner.
Leave them. Why the hell would I cut off people I’ve known for years for some newbie? What a weird and controlling thing to tell someone to do.
Tell them to kick rocks
I wouldn’t enter a relationship like that. If that request comes after the relationship is established, I would break up.
That reeks of insecurity and is extremely controlling. No chance I would stay with that partner, it’s a huge red flag.
Also… I’m bi, does that mean I can’t have any friends??
Engaged to a long term partner.
We both have friends of both genders.
Ive been with men who “not allow me” to be friends with my guy friends. Ive dumped every single one. If they’ll isolate you from friends, they’ll isolate you from family and coworkers, and frankly have some issues to work through.
Being secure is hot.
I had a best friend for close to 19 years who confessed his love for me after I became serious with my husband. I told my husband, and he asked me if I would feel comfortable with him having a female best friend who was in love with him constantly in his life. When I told my ex best friend that I didn’t feel the same, he gave me an ultimatum. My husband asked me to cut him off, and I did. Normally, I wouldn’t cut opposite gender friends off, but in this case, I felt it was appropriate.
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Laugh because she’d be joking. There’s no way she’d seriously mean that and it’s part of why I married her.
I’d also probably jokingly ask her if she just wanted me to have 0 friends, seeing as I’m bi.
If she were serious, it would be a fundamental incompatibility that would likely lead to our relationship ending.
Cut said partner off man
I would no longer be in that relationship. I value friendships with people of all sexes, and if my partner cannot trust me to be just friends with them, clearly we don’t have an acceptable foundation of trust.
Break up with this person immediately. That’s both ridiculous and a red flag for trying to begin isolating someone. It often escalates to cutting off friends and family as well.
Find a new partner.
That relationship would be over and I would be gone before he finished that sentence.
Laugh in their face and end the relationship immediately.
It’s a social isolation tactic, which is a classic abuser move. It also demonstrates that they are ruled by their insecurities and haven’t done the amount of emotional work on themselves that is a prerequisite for being a partner of mine.
Plus I’m bisexual and non-monogamous, so it’s just exceedingly dumb.
Break up, that just weird man. If I’m you’re partner you’re supposed to trust me, otherwise the relationship makes no sense
he wouldn’t be my partner anymore. I have no time for an insecure person who wants to control me just to mange his insecurity; aint nobody got time for that.
Cut them off, stat. That is a telltale sign of emotionL control.
Well, there is the classic bi problem. I have had past partners be jealous of male friends which tells me they don’t take bisexuality seriously, which is an extra cherry on top of the jealousy.
But no, I would not put up with that. Trust is vital. If you don’t think I’m the type of person who can – and wants to – remain faithful, then why do you even like me?
Obviously that’s a big red flag. My s/o has a lot of friends that are the opposite sex and there are parts of it that make me really uncomfortable, but I’d never make him cut them out. I respect the sanctity of friendships and his own autonomy, I wouldn’t want to be controlling and I wouldn’t expect him to make me cut out my friends. But it’s also weird bc I don’t know what to do with my feelings of being uncomfortable with some of his friendship dynamics. I guess that opens space for conversations about boundaries 🤷🏻♀️
I would be single. I would wish them well and tell them that they should seek therapy to deal with their insecurities and trust issues in romantic relationships before pursuing another relationship so that they can develop healthier communication methods instead of requiring their partner to remove friends because of their gender.
Depends on the person – if it was someone I had romantic history with where there’s potential for unfinished business or a guy who was only pretending to me a friend but had ulterior motives then sure.
Anything else then no, absolutely not. Cutting off people isn’t going to fix insecurities now is it?
Break up immediately. Toxic insecurity is a dealbreaker.
Clear insecurity aside… I’m attracted to all genders, so that would be an odd thing to ask me. I’m as likely to run off with a woman as I am a man, so they’d basically have to ask me to not have friends in which case I’d say that’s the end of that relationship!
Leave. Immediately.
Dump them.
I’d probably dip on the relationship. That’s just not a healthy mindset unless he were to do it because I had a history of cheating or crossing boundaries. But because I don’t it’s a no
Get a new partner.
Leave them. Why the hell would I cut off people I’ve known for years for some newbie? What a weird and controlling thing to tell someone to do.
Tell them to kick rocks
I wouldn’t enter a relationship like that. If that request comes after the relationship is established, I would break up.
That reeks of insecurity and is extremely controlling. No chance I would stay with that partner, it’s a huge red flag.
Also… I’m bi, does that mean I can’t have any friends??
Engaged to a long term partner.
We both have friends of both genders.
Ive been with men who “not allow me” to be friends with my guy friends. Ive dumped every single one. If they’ll isolate you from friends, they’ll isolate you from family and coworkers, and frankly have some issues to work through.
Being secure is hot.
I had a best friend for close to 19 years who confessed his love for me after I became serious with my husband. I told my husband, and he asked me if I would feel comfortable with him having a female best friend who was in love with him constantly in his life. When I told my ex best friend that I didn’t feel the same, he gave me an ultimatum. My husband asked me to cut him off, and I did. Normally, I wouldn’t cut opposite gender friends off, but in this case, I felt it was appropriate.