We have been married for 1 year, and I am suffering from the fact that my husband isn’t vocally affectionate. I really can count on the fingers of one hand the number of time he called me pretty since we get married (and I asked him to do it most of the time it happened).
He will never call me pretty or compliments me using known normal words but he daily uses his own expressions and random words that he decided to use as compliments. (And he do not compliment me on my personnality anymore, before marriage he complimented me a lot on both). At first I was okay with that I find it cute and funny to have words that only us use this way but now it’s exhausting to hear only that all the time.
I asked him so many times to do so and I am very calm and I do everything to not hurt his feelings while asking him to compliment me. I do not compare him or anything, I told him that I need to hear real words and even when I discuss this with him he pays attention and hug me (when he notices that I am sad) but he never changes and never compliments me. Even when I am really sad and crying because of that situation he just kisses me.
I am do not know what I am supposed to do, it really does hurt my feeling so deeply. I wonder if he has avoidant attachement style ? I am really lost and trying to explore any option. Im tired of discussing this with him, it’s always me that initates hard and deep conversations.
Do you have any advices ?