My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 3 months now, and we’re crazy about one another. We both sincerely think that, although we haven’t been together very long, we’re each other’s persons and we want to marry each other.
However, we’ve recently come across a difference in how we live our lives that may or may not be major, depending on how we go about addressing it.
She likes it warm, I like it cold.
When I’m driving, I need the A/C blasting on me, she likes it a little warmer, so we go back and forth with the A/C
She loves the beach, and hot tropical climates. She wants to vacation in hawaii, Southern California, anywhere that’s hot and has a beach.
I can’t stand the heat. I get heat rash really quickly and I am majorly uncomfortable. I prefer the colder climates. I like when it’s really cold and gloomy, or a light snow, and I’d love to vacation somewhere Scandinavian. That’s where my body temperature feels the more comfortable. But she hates the cold. She gets seasonable depression, and she gets cold really quickly.
When we’re sleeping (we currently sleep at our own places, separately), I barely wear anything and I have the ceiling fan on all night. She buries herself under 2-3 duvets
When we sleep together, in the same bed, we compromise by me relinquishing the duvet/cover entirely to her, and I just dress appropriately.
Her favorite seasons are literally Spring & Summer, and mine are Autumn & Winter. She wants to lay on the beach and go tanning, I want to lay in the snow and watch the Northern Lights.
We’ve talked about these differences, and we’ve gotten very vulnerable about them, but we’ve both committed to loving each other regardless and helping each other feel the best in their preferred comfort zones.
How have other relationships dealt with difference such as this?