Me, 19F and my bf 21M have been dating for over 10 months. Those months have been difficult but very loving. He struggles with addiction and I'm struggling with BPD, recently diagnosed.
Things have been horrible the last two moths because I've been pretty unstable, splitting frequently on him meanwhile he lied about being sober.
Now I lowkey know how to deal with my emotions after therapy sessions, but I am very hurt by his lies and the excessive use of substances in front of me.
We love each other crazy and we both are up to try anything to be happy together but instead we are hurting each other.
He wont quit and now we crossed the line which means we would be reproaching each other and even sometimes being disrespectful.
We love each other, we want to make it work, but he won't quit and I can't stand seeing him high.
Please please please I need help.
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Fixing it would mean him getting sober and you getting regulated. Do you see these things happening? If not, time to move on.
“we both are up to try anything to be happy together”
“he won’t quit”
So not *anything* then?
I know this advice is going to hurt, but it seems like you need stable people around you while you navigate managing your new diagnosis, and he’s not going to be that person for you.