This is basically “I’m questioning the relationship,” right? I just want to make sure I’m not going crazy because when I got upset I just got accused of overreacting. But it feels really threatening to be told that in the middle of a conversation about documents your mortgage broker is asking for. Five years married, eight together. We have some ongoing issues with communication and frequency of sex, both of which have improved a lot in recent years, and supposedly we are both on the same page about working at them.