I’ve been dealing with sexual coercion with my husband of 29 years. It’s always been there but I’ve only just started to realize what it is and that it’s not normal. Every time I say no to sex (because I genuinely have crazy anxiety at even just the thought of having to do it) he gets upset, threatens to go elsewhere (this is a fairly new tactic) and then asks why my feelings are more implrtant than his needs and that I should “just do it” for him because he does “things for me” (ie; doing something around the house that he should do because it’s his home too).
I’ve been guilted into sex for years and I’ve gradually come to literally cringe when he touches me. Does anyone else experience this on their marriage/relationship and if so, how do you deal with the constant cycle? And, get rejected, ask “why” you don’t want to, get mad with reason, sulk, eventually move on and then repeat the next day….. im mentally exhausted.