We’ve been together for over 23 years, married for 17, with 3 lovely kids.
We love each other deeply and share a strong emotional bond.
Our sex life was never daily or intense, but it wasn’t dead either — she was doing the task. I always aimed for more intensity and frequency, but she would always say, “I’m like that, my libido isn’t strong.”
Recently, she confessed a devastating truth: she could have a very high libido and sexual intensity — but not with or for me.
She told me she has tried, but it’s physical. She knows she could enjoy sex in general, and be at the level I aim for, but just not with me.
She says she has never betrayed me, and that she relies on experiences from before our story began.
I am emotionally ruined.
Should I divorce?