relationship 3.5 years however the last few months have been off and on
I f20 live at home with my parents my boyfriend is at uni (I do anything apprenticeship) because of this im alot more family orientated than he is. however theres always been a problem and that is that my parents dont typically tend to tell me about family holidays till very close to the time of going, so it's hard to get time off with work.
This year it happend again and in a typical role you probably wouldnt be allowed the time off however my roles abit more flexible. I told my Bf that ive only just been told about the holiday and im annoyed at my parents for onoy just letting me know. he then kicked off (like he has done in the past) saying "i cant be asking for the time off it will look super bad on you and I cant be with someone who gives into their parents and doesnt respect their career, if there was more notice I obviously wouldnt care but its so unprofessional"
I then said how i have explained the situation to work and I havent asked for the time off yet as idk what they think. my partner then blocked me as I wasnt standing up to my parents and the fact I let them rule over me etc.
I messaged him on another place explaining how it wont happen again etc how ill move out (rocky relationship with family as it is at times) so that this doesnt happen again. how ive told them I wont go on the family holiday next year. but its of now use he doesnt care and hes gone no contact. I genuinely dont know what to do as first my boyfriend has the issue with how it would make me look at work and now all of a sudden its because of how I am with my family and not standing up to my parents.
ive tried to tell my parents im not going but apparently I have to so it seems since its all been paid etc ive told them I cant get the time off work (as a lie to get out of it) but thats no good either. it feels like my only option is to go along with it and just loose my partner whos basically blocked me on everything atp
I feel so lost and dont know what to do so any advice would be appreciated thank you
What should I do ?
TLDR: my family didnt tell me about a holiday till the last minute, boyfriend want to leave me because I said id go on it rather thwn standing up to my parent. What should I do ?