What makes a girl f*ckable but not datable?

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1. Being attractive with a shit personality

2. In general, because she cannot offer anything else, neither good conversation, kind heart, nor ability to create a warm home or something else of value.

   However, in this particular situation, it can also be that you are not looking for a relationship among people who want it. Try to change your social cirlce.

3. Good for you for trying to find answers. Not trying to be hurtful but it doesn’t sound like you take yourself too seriously.

4. My friend it depends from person to person.

   1. for some the wavelength of intellectual level derived from education

   2. for some financial level

   3. for some when it comes to marriage leaning towards that traditionally conservative girls.

   Not saying any is justified and we can talk about each long hours but usually it is some amount from each of them.

5. Busty, thin, and a bad attitude.

6. When she’s crazy in some way. Unstable. A whore that’s fucked half the town, or dress slutty.

   So you’re tattooed and pierced and used to have dyed hair. That doesn’t give guys “This is the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with” vibes.

   Do you do drugs?
   What’s your body count?
   The guys you’ve slept with, did they know you before sleeping with you? AKA, were you known in their social circle?

   Here, this explains it well:
   [https://youtu.be/kVZcxtXT5r8?si=1xU010sveSeAIsNg](https://youtu.be/kVZcxtXT5r8?si=1xU010sveSeAIsNg)

7. It’s not even that.

   You can be a wonderful woman.

   But you might just be too much for some and not enough for others x too independent for those looking for their clingy love and too clingy for those looking for more independence. Sometimes it’s just not fitting right with the right people.

   And those that think you’re the best thing in the world, you’re just not seeing them the same way….

8. Being attractive but bringing nothing else to table like a strong personality, making sex your only appealing factor or pursuing men out of your league who would use you for a booty call, but never for a serious relationship come to mind

9. It’s almost assuredly the personality.

10. By your description of your looks, yeah, that’s pretty slutty – for me at least, excessive tattoes, piercings, and other “odd” bodily transformations (which does include hair dyed to unnatural colors) subconsciously indicate an open, liberal, “carpe diem” lifestyle.

    It can also be your behaviour, if you are very open/flirty towards other, especially men, that would tell me that you 1) desperately seek validation from your peers which leads me to believe you have self confidence issues, and although I’m not the one to take advantage of that, there are many men out there who will.

    If you get to the point where you talk to men and they still only want to f*ck you, then your conversations are either shallow/uninterested, mostly related to sexuality, or your take on certain topics is either not serious or opposite to the views of the potential partner. For example, if you like to trash yourself in clubs every weekend, go to festivals and concerts every month, maybe multiple times, don’t work, or have a “low end” workplace with no real ambition, then you will attract the like minded men who probably don’t want a relationship whatsoever, only one night stands.

    Depends on your age too, if you are 18-20 probably few people would want to settle with you especially if you’re trying to date older guys. If you are older, around 30, then well… it probably boils down to the aforementioned personality traits that indicate you don’t have a vision, goals in life, and just live an overall lavish/party-minded lifestyle that is probably not compatible with someones’s values who is looking to settle down.

    Then again, all of this is just speculation because you’ve only mentioned your looks, not your personality, so these are just wild guesses.

11. She can deepthroat but is otherwise awful to be around

12. >I’m tattooed, pierced, used to have dyed hair, have been told I have a resting bitch face, and love to dress up (not too slutty but usually in a mini dress or crop top and baggy pants)

    Question answered 

13. Attitude, work ethic, morals etc

14. Her behaviour

15. It means she doesn’t fit some criteria that the guy has. Like, your personality or looks aren’t attractive enough for the guy

    In your case, it probably has a lot to do with image too. You break societal norms and a lot of guys are probably turned off by that

    Not saying that’s right or that you should change, though! Keep being your amazing self!

16. When 80-90% of your conversations revolve around sex/makeout or you have a high body count. Its basically done

17. There’s no way to pinpoint it down without seeing how you operate in a social setting BUT in my experience if you are having no issues getting guys for sex it means they find you attractive enough to get with. But there may be an aspect of your relationship they find not to be for them. That is all a matter of perspective. However, if it is a common theme, things to consider. Do you hang out in the same places and see people from adjacent circles? Maybe someone is tarnishing your rep behind your back? Do you have an outgoing personality? Guys get jealous easily. They might see you get another man’s attention and think the worst, there’s like so many things it could be it’s hard to nail down.

18. The answer is in your question 😉

19. Do they keep going back for the sex or is it a 1-2 times and done? If just 1-2 times it could be the sex.

    Otherwise it’s attractiveness level. Age and weight are included in that especially if you’re several years older than them.

    If none of those? It’s personality.

20. She demonstrates markers that suggest a low likelihood of remaining with one man only for any length of time. If you want a man who stays, you have to be a woman who stays.

    History of highly aggressive former partners.

    Member of any “alternative lifestyle”.

    Party attitude, whether alcohol or drugs.

    Demonstrates a need to outshine me in anything, regardless of whether or not she can.

21. Some guys seek fun, others want commitment; it’s often about compatibility, not flaws.

22. Physically attractive but with bad values / attitude.

    Interestingly the worse her values / attitude are, the less guilt you feel that she’s just someone to fuck with with zero chance of promotion to date material.

23. The most beautiful women with an entitled attitude is like a bag of cocaine with attitude. It’s addictive, but nothing you want for too long.

24. Any issues with substances or mental issues like depression? The good news is that you are hot but bad news you might be a little bit crazy.

25. By how you have described yourself and without knowing your personality, for me it would be :

    1. Your dress sense – for me this does come across as slutty/easy going in the sense of being game

    2. The environment in which you move around/socialise within – I am not saying that it is probably bad or anything but place yourself on i n the type of places where the discerning type of guys would be, and if that is not possible then approach/strike up up a convo with the guys who are sat on the sidelines/in the corner/the quiet ones. They’re the most gentlemanly that would treat you and would want a date.

26. I can only speak from my own perspective, but I primarily dated to get laid and have an easy time. I’m not attractive myself, so the women I slept with weren’t very attractive either, but it was fun and satisfying but shallow because I made no effort to connect more, because they weren’t attractive enough for anything long term or thought I could settle for better.

    The sex was also average in general.

    I met my wife as I usually did while dating, only she was just that much fucking hotter, and the sex was well above average. As soon as I learned she had a kind and caring personality I pursued her on a more long-term level.

    Could be the men you pursue simply think they can do better, and you don’t stand out enough among their other options for them to settle. It’s no secret the top 5% of men are banging almost all the women, so they have A LOT of options, and women don’t want to settle for those less, because hey, they are banging the top of men.

    So either you are aiming way above your station, or you are nothing special beside a lay.

27. If she’s pretty but a guy can’t see them together long term, and it could be for a lot of reasons.

    You’ve described yourself as an alt girl. There are many different varieties of alt, but that’s not relevant. Most pretty alt girls I’ve met are fun to be around and smart, able to hold a good conversation, they do tend to turn me on physically, and stimulate me mentally. However, most of them I’ve met are not emotionally stable and don’t share the same values. They tend to have a big problem with the way the world works and rather than adapt to it the best they can without losing themselves they seem to demand it conform to their will. So while she’s fun to be around for a while, long term her issues and our value conflicts will inevitably cause a messy breakup. It’s not something I want to do again if I can help it.

28. Physically attractive, but not emotionally or mentally attractive.