I (31F) just got out of a two year relationship that never should’ve happened to begin with. He didn’t defend me with his parents, protect me when his parents said anything nasty to me to bring me to tears and allowed his ex to run my name through the mud and almost cheated on me by going out to dinner with her when my dad died last year. It was a healthy breakup and not one filled with drama and I’m just over him so I’m fine. I need a man who will do all the things I need and commit after at least a year. Someone who will fiercely defend me and make me feel safe when asking for the simple things like going for drives, blocking his exes, buying me flowers, opening doors, wants to spend real time with me outside the bedroom. Let me just ask because I’m really confused as to where those type of men are. Like where the fuck am I going wrong getting the doormats and narcissists cuz I know it’s not me.